Occasionally I'll visit ChumpLady's site. I find her irritating. On top of giving some bad advice, she apparently buys the MSM's line of bull about President Trump. (Disclaimer: While I don't particularly care for his "grab them by the p***y" comment, at least he implies that there is consent. Unlike SOME Democrats [allegedly]. But I digress.)
She will up and tell you that if your spouse is cheating, then leave. As a Christian, it's become clearer and clearer to me that people in the world make it all about them. As Christians we screw up but God does not kick us to the curb. The world will tell you to take the easier route instead of actually working for something. Should we not follow God's example and forgive our wayward spouse? Let God work on them. Know what "standing" is for me? Simply acknowledging that only death puts an end to the marriage covenant. Not divorce. Not the wayward spouse "marrying" another person. Once you and your spouse said "I do," IT WAS A DONE DEAL.
Excuse me, ChumpLady, but marriage is until death do you part. Not divorce. I might also add that remarriage after you divorce your spouse is adultery. Says so in Matthew, Mark, and Luke. Matthew 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18. Also Romans 7:2-3 says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives--not until he leaves.
I kind of get a kick out of her term "be mighty." To me that means harden your heart. Yeah, good message to send to your kids--if someone ticks you off enough, you write them off. Be unforgiving, never mind that God wants us to forgive. On the flip side, being forgiving towards your spouse sets a good example for your kids--nothing is too heinous to work through. Not with God's help. (Please note that I am NOT saying be subject to abuse. If you are being abused, get help. BUT--divorce does NOT make you no longer husband and wife, despite that piece of paper. The thing to do here would be separation, and pray for your spouse. NOWHERE does it say it's okay to ditch the person and find a new person.)
There is no "exception clause" either. The "except for fornication" had to do with Jewish marriage customs. If the wife was cheating with another guy before the marriage was finalized, then the husband could ditch her (Mary and Joseph--except Mary had not been running around on him). But once the marriage was complete--that's it, no turning back.
I notice that a lot of the posters there at ChumpLady seem to be rather bitter. I also have visited boards for "standers" and people there are more likely to speak about their spouses with love, not hate.
By their fruits ye will know them....
