Occasionally I'll visit ChumpLady's site. I find her irritating. On top of giving some bad advice, she apparently buys the MSM's line of bull about President Trump. (Disclaimer: While I don't particularly care for his "grab them by the p***y" comment, at least he implies that there is consent. Unlike SOME Democrats [allegedly]. But I digress.)
She will up and tell you that if your spouse is cheating, then leave. As a Christian, it's become clearer and clearer to me that people in the world make it all about them. As Christians we screw up but God does not kick us to the curb. The world will tell you to take the easier route instead of actually working for something. Should we not follow God's example and forgive our wayward spouse? Let God work on them. Know what "standing" is for me? Simply acknowledging that only death puts an end to the marriage covenant. Not divorce. Not the wayward spouse "marrying" another person. Once you and your spouse said "I do," IT WAS A DONE DEAL.
Excuse me, ChumpLady, but marriage is until death do you part. Not divorce. I might also add that remarriage after you divorce your spouse is adultery. Says so in Matthew, Mark, and Luke. Matthew 5:32; 19:9; Mark 10:11-12; Luke 16:18. Also Romans 7:2-3 says that a woman is bound to her husband as long as he lives--not until he leaves.
I kind of get a kick out of her term "be mighty." To me that means harden your heart. Yeah, good message to send to your kids--if someone ticks you off enough, you write them off. Be unforgiving, never mind that God wants us to forgive. On the flip side, being forgiving towards your spouse sets a good example for your kids--nothing is too heinous to work through. Not with God's help. (Please note that I am NOT saying be subject to abuse. If you are being abused, get help. BUT--divorce does NOT make you no longer husband and wife, despite that piece of paper. The thing to do here would be separation, and pray for your spouse. NOWHERE does it say it's okay to ditch the person and find a new person.)
There is no "exception clause" either. The "except for fornication" had to do with Jewish marriage customs. If the wife was cheating with another guy before the marriage was finalized, then the husband could ditch her (Mary and Joseph--except Mary had not been running around on him). But once the marriage was complete--that's it, no turning back.
I notice that a lot of the posters there at ChumpLady seem to be rather bitter. I also have visited boards for "standers" and people there are more likely to speak about their spouses with love, not hate.
By their fruits ye will know them....
Sunday, February 25, 2018
Tuesday, December 5, 2017
Not all "single moms" are single.
I hate divorce. Hate it with a passion. I never wanted the divorce. Ever. I still love my husband.
Not "ex." There really is no such thing as an "ex" spouse.
I hate being called a single mom. When I think "single mom," I think someone who had a child out of wedlock. My husband and I were married for eight years when our son was born. So I don't think I should be called a single mom.
Romans 7:2-3 states:
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
Not "ex." There really is no such thing as an "ex" spouse.
I hate being called a single mom. When I think "single mom," I think someone who had a child out of wedlock. My husband and I were married for eight years when our son was born. So I don't think I should be called a single mom.
Romans 7:2-3 states:
For the woman which hath an husband is bound by the law to her husband so long as he liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is loosed from the law of her husband.
So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.
So...I am not free to find someone else or remarry. Now if my husband were to die (no, I do NOT wish that), then I would be able to find someone else. Not that I particularly want to.
Jesus says in Matthew 5:32--But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Get that? Marry a divorced woman and you are committing adultery! And I might add that fornication here means just that--fornication. Not adultery. Nor is it an umbrella term for any and all sexual sins (like adultery). Matthew is a Jewish book, and Jews had a betrothal period that was just about as binding as marriage. The account of Joseph and Mary is a good example. Had Mary actually been fooling around, Joseph could have divorced her at that point and it wouldn't have been a sin. But once the vows are said, it's a done deal.
My point? In God's eyes I am still bound to my husband. That is why I still wear my ring.
"Why would you want him back?" I can hear people saying.
To any Christians reading this--Aren't you glad God doesn't take that attitude with us when we screw up?
Tuesday, April 12, 2016
Yes means yes, except when it means no, and when I think it does....
So I was surfing YouTube and I came across some interesting videos talking about feminists and rape hoaxes and the like. This one girl was having a hissy fit because there was an article by a mom who gave her son like 300 condoms to take with him to college and warned him about the party girls, and reminded him to stay focused on academics. She was concerned that a girl would consent to sex--then change her mind or in some way get him into trouble. Users commenting on one such video wondered if she was the type of girl this mother was warning her son and his friends about! Who knows.
I know most people would say good going to the mother, teaching her son responsibility and all that, and how to avoid trouble. But I still see a problem, and it really has nothing to do with feminism.
Whatever happened to teaching our kids abstinence? Think about it. If kids are taught from the time they're old enough to understand about abstinence, and taught that their parents expect it, they'll get in a lot less trouble! I was more or less taught abstinence (I was a teenager in the 80s). I waited until I was married and so did my husband. That's the way it should be.
What if this young man was taught to abstain until he was married, and he followed this advice? Same with his friends? Then there'd be no chance whatsoever of STDs or pregnancy (no birth control device is 100% effective), and the beauty of it is, if you don't have sex, there's virtually NO chance of a girl falsely accusing you of rape!
I have heard it said that sex takes the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble. Save yourselves the trouble--and save yourselves! Believe it or not, girls don't mind having virgin husbands. In fact, that's what I wanted and what I got. Why give yourself baggage?
I know most people would say good going to the mother, teaching her son responsibility and all that, and how to avoid trouble. But I still see a problem, and it really has nothing to do with feminism.
Whatever happened to teaching our kids abstinence? Think about it. If kids are taught from the time they're old enough to understand about abstinence, and taught that their parents expect it, they'll get in a lot less trouble! I was more or less taught abstinence (I was a teenager in the 80s). I waited until I was married and so did my husband. That's the way it should be.
What if this young man was taught to abstain until he was married, and he followed this advice? Same with his friends? Then there'd be no chance whatsoever of STDs or pregnancy (no birth control device is 100% effective), and the beauty of it is, if you don't have sex, there's virtually NO chance of a girl falsely accusing you of rape!
I have heard it said that sex takes the least amount of time and causes the most amount of trouble. Save yourselves the trouble--and save yourselves! Believe it or not, girls don't mind having virgin husbands. In fact, that's what I wanted and what I got. Why give yourself baggage?
Thursday, March 31, 2016
"Cheating" on boyfriend or girlfriend? Um...no.
I've seen forums and the like where people are upset that their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them.
Newsflash--it is not adultery. Adultery is when you are married to your covenant spouse and you fool around with someone else, or you fool around with someone who's married to someone else. If you're having sex with your boy/girlfriend it's fornication. If they fool around with someone else, it's still fornication (adultery if the "other person" is married).
I have to ask, what nowadays is the difference between a boy/girlfriend and a spouse? Level of commitment? Either you are committed or you or not.
I can easily see why pastors (mine included) are against dating and having a steady boy/girlfriend--and I agree. It encourages "serial monogamy." You date (or marry) someone for a time, and when you get bored, out with the old, in with the new. And it's so much easier with the no-fault divorce laws. Funny how it takes two people to decide to get married, but only one to decide to call it quits--when the going gets tough, the tough get going to divorce court.
The real fun part is, marriages that started as adultery have a snowball's chance in hell--so why do it?
I think we need to get back to the "old" way of doing things. Group dates, chaperones, the whole nine yards. Because let's face it, newer isn't always better. None of this shacking-up nonsense. How in the world can someone fooling around with your boyfriend be a homewrecker when what you have isn't really a home or a family to begin with? As long as you're not married to them, let's face it, they're really fair game!
Newsflash--it is not adultery. Adultery is when you are married to your covenant spouse and you fool around with someone else, or you fool around with someone who's married to someone else. If you're having sex with your boy/girlfriend it's fornication. If they fool around with someone else, it's still fornication (adultery if the "other person" is married).
I have to ask, what nowadays is the difference between a boy/girlfriend and a spouse? Level of commitment? Either you are committed or you or not.
I can easily see why pastors (mine included) are against dating and having a steady boy/girlfriend--and I agree. It encourages "serial monogamy." You date (or marry) someone for a time, and when you get bored, out with the old, in with the new. And it's so much easier with the no-fault divorce laws. Funny how it takes two people to decide to get married, but only one to decide to call it quits--when the going gets tough, the tough get going to divorce court.
The real fun part is, marriages that started as adultery have a snowball's chance in hell--so why do it?
I think we need to get back to the "old" way of doing things. Group dates, chaperones, the whole nine yards. Because let's face it, newer isn't always better. None of this shacking-up nonsense. How in the world can someone fooling around with your boyfriend be a homewrecker when what you have isn't really a home or a family to begin with? As long as you're not married to them, let's face it, they're really fair game!
Wednesday, March 23, 2016
The sit-down-and-shut-up drugs
So we have drug-free school zones, but the funny part about that is, there are kids who are on medication for so-called ADHD and whatever other label. I took my son out of a regular public school because they were trying to talk me into getting him medicated. I said NO, and said I'm homeschooling him, and they were like "you don't have to do that." (Why not? Is it true that schools get more funding for kids on medication? I know it is in other places, just don't know about Ohio. If it is true, then my son's a cash cow that's just gone dry on them.)
Well, I am, and I did. He's now enrolled in OHDELA, which is an Internet-based school. He likes it a lot better. Apparently in a regular school, he's what's known as a "sympathetic crier"--one kid gets upset, so do other kids, including him. That is NOT the ideal setting! At church, he's with "normal" kids and so he sees what you're supposed to act like (is it any wonder that he's been a lot better-behaved in church than at school?). He is in church with me 3-4 times a week. He goes to Sunday school and enjoys it, and he's with other kids his age on Wednesday nights as well. Then there's Reformers Unanimous, a Christ-centered addictions program, and their Kidz Club, which he enjoys. I typically run the sound booth there, something I do enjoy, and I get a lot out of the program. So he's socializing with other kids about three days a week.
He is a lot calmer now and he's being challenged more with the curriculum, though he's in special education. He also goes to a chiropractor (I've since found out his spine is a bit out of whack, which can cause issues with behavior). He gets D3/K2 supplements (D3 deficiency can also cause issues with behavior). And he's not eating the junk that schools serve up for breakfast and lunch--I have more control over his diet. His typical breakfast now is scrambled eggs and a piece of cinnamon-raisin toast (sprouted grain bread) with grass-fed butter--and the drops of D3/K2. Quite a far cry from French toast sticks and stuff that passes for syrup! He also enjoys his "soaking bath," as he calls it--which is an Epsom salt bath. Epsom salt, if you don't know, is magnesium sulfate. The magnesium is great for calming kids on the autism spectrum (it's good for anyone) and the sulfate helps with bowel function--which can also help with behavior. I ask does it help him calm down and he says yes. So I've taken him from an environment that does him almost no good, I'm giving him healthier food, and he's seeing a chiropractor. Sure it's a bit more effort, but I am NOT okay with taking the easy way out and drugging him. Those drugs have some nasty side effects--including DEATH. I am NOT going to risk my son's health or LIFE just to make someone's job easier.
Well, I am, and I did. He's now enrolled in OHDELA, which is an Internet-based school. He likes it a lot better. Apparently in a regular school, he's what's known as a "sympathetic crier"--one kid gets upset, so do other kids, including him. That is NOT the ideal setting! At church, he's with "normal" kids and so he sees what you're supposed to act like (is it any wonder that he's been a lot better-behaved in church than at school?). He is in church with me 3-4 times a week. He goes to Sunday school and enjoys it, and he's with other kids his age on Wednesday nights as well. Then there's Reformers Unanimous, a Christ-centered addictions program, and their Kidz Club, which he enjoys. I typically run the sound booth there, something I do enjoy, and I get a lot out of the program. So he's socializing with other kids about three days a week.
He is a lot calmer now and he's being challenged more with the curriculum, though he's in special education. He also goes to a chiropractor (I've since found out his spine is a bit out of whack, which can cause issues with behavior). He gets D3/K2 supplements (D3 deficiency can also cause issues with behavior). And he's not eating the junk that schools serve up for breakfast and lunch--I have more control over his diet. His typical breakfast now is scrambled eggs and a piece of cinnamon-raisin toast (sprouted grain bread) with grass-fed butter--and the drops of D3/K2. Quite a far cry from French toast sticks and stuff that passes for syrup! He also enjoys his "soaking bath," as he calls it--which is an Epsom salt bath. Epsom salt, if you don't know, is magnesium sulfate. The magnesium is great for calming kids on the autism spectrum (it's good for anyone) and the sulfate helps with bowel function--which can also help with behavior. I ask does it help him calm down and he says yes. So I've taken him from an environment that does him almost no good, I'm giving him healthier food, and he's seeing a chiropractor. Sure it's a bit more effort, but I am NOT okay with taking the easy way out and drugging him. Those drugs have some nasty side effects--including DEATH. I am NOT going to risk my son's health or LIFE just to make someone's job easier.
Saturday, March 19, 2016
Remember (Tony) Alamo--or should we forget?
About ten years ago I used to get these newsletters from the Tony Alamo "Christian" church. I'm someone who thinks, hey, if you're on God's side, I want to hear from you. I was acquainted with someone online who actually used to go to that church (won't say who this person is).
Well, I was on my Kindle this evening, going back through all the newsletters...and I can't believe I just about fell for the craziness that is Tony Alamo. Yeah, he was busted about seven or eight years ago...but sometimes things pop into your mind years later.
Quick note here: It IS true that the Catholic "church" is spearheading the one-world religion and all that. Just because Alamo believes it, doesn't mean he's on our side. Enter the $PLC and you have a few complications. I don't trust Alamo's group any more than I trust the $PLC which, in my opinion, is a hate group in and of itself! I know he had ex-Jesuit Alberto Rivera speaking at some point, I think back in 1984. I believe Alberto, and I believe Jack Chick. I don't believe Tony Alamo. As far as I'm concerned Alamo is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Keep in mind that a good counterfeit looks as much like the real deal as possible--it is not going to be obvious or in-your-face that it's a fake...you have to know what to look for. Use the Bible like cashiers use that pen to discern counterfeit bills.
I was saved for sure a year ago; before that, I'm not sure. But now I can give you a time and a place. March 10, 2015, at the independent Baptist church I attend.
Alamo doesn't pass the test. He gives you this malarkey about "five steps to salvation." Excuse me, Mr. Alamo, but here's how it's really done: You realize that you are a sinner and cannot save yourself. You ask Jesus Christ to save you and come into your heart. You repent--you turn away from your sin and to God. You CANNOT do ANYTHING to save yourself (or keep your salvation)--Jesus did it all! He tells you after you're saved, pray for baptism in the Holy Spirit. Hold on--once you're saved, the Holy Spirit comes to reside within you!
Another thing: If Alamo wants to be a pastor (World Pastor, really?), he's failed a test by having all these wives. The book of Titus talks about an elder being the husband of ONE wife. And even on his site he is doing whatever he can to justify his polygamy.
And then he claimed that he and his wife Susan were the prophesied "two witnesses" from the Book of Revelation. That earns a HUGE facepalm! Then he claims that he has seen Jesus Christ in person, face to face. I'm surprised he hasn't declared himself an apostle yet (at least to my knowledge), a la Herbert W. Armstrong!
Oh, and Susan Alamo was a pastor. Hold the phone--the Bible says that women are to keep silent in the churches and to ask their husbands at home! Yet, from the things I've read and heard, she pretty well ran the show.
He's also one of these preachers who says you can lose your salvation. Well, 1 John 1:9 says "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." According to Alamo, if you're saved, you will be sinless; if you sin, you risk losing your salvation. Thing is, to be human is to be a sinner. A saved person has a dual nature--the old man (the flesh) and the new (the Spirit). Feed one, you starve the other--a principle that's described in the Reformers Unanimous program. Not only that, but OUR righteousness will never be enough. A saved person has Christ's righteousness imputed to them.
Tell you what, you take the idea that you can lose your salvation, and combine it with a preacher that's a totalitarian, and you get bondage. "If you don't do what the pastor says, you will be sent to hell!" Sounds a lot like Catholicism, Tony! (Reminds me of what a science teacher of mine used to say--point the finger and you have three pointing back at you.)
At any rate, if you want the truth, and not something out of the Twilight Zone, steer clear from "World Pastor" Tony Alamo's literature. He talks about adulterers going to hell, yet from what I understand he married a twice-divorced Susan--which is in itself adultery. Find a King James Bible-believing church (preferably independent Baptist).
Well, I was on my Kindle this evening, going back through all the newsletters...and I can't believe I just about fell for the craziness that is Tony Alamo. Yeah, he was busted about seven or eight years ago...but sometimes things pop into your mind years later.
Quick note here: It IS true that the Catholic "church" is spearheading the one-world religion and all that. Just because Alamo believes it, doesn't mean he's on our side. Enter the $PLC and you have a few complications. I don't trust Alamo's group any more than I trust the $PLC which, in my opinion, is a hate group in and of itself! I know he had ex-Jesuit Alberto Rivera speaking at some point, I think back in 1984. I believe Alberto, and I believe Jack Chick. I don't believe Tony Alamo. As far as I'm concerned Alamo is a wolf in sheep's clothing. Keep in mind that a good counterfeit looks as much like the real deal as possible--it is not going to be obvious or in-your-face that it's a fake...you have to know what to look for. Use the Bible like cashiers use that pen to discern counterfeit bills.
I was saved for sure a year ago; before that, I'm not sure. But now I can give you a time and a place. March 10, 2015, at the independent Baptist church I attend.
Alamo doesn't pass the test. He gives you this malarkey about "five steps to salvation." Excuse me, Mr. Alamo, but here's how it's really done: You realize that you are a sinner and cannot save yourself. You ask Jesus Christ to save you and come into your heart. You repent--you turn away from your sin and to God. You CANNOT do ANYTHING to save yourself (or keep your salvation)--Jesus did it all! He tells you after you're saved, pray for baptism in the Holy Spirit. Hold on--once you're saved, the Holy Spirit comes to reside within you!
Another thing: If Alamo wants to be a pastor (World Pastor, really?), he's failed a test by having all these wives. The book of Titus talks about an elder being the husband of ONE wife. And even on his site he is doing whatever he can to justify his polygamy.
And then he claimed that he and his wife Susan were the prophesied "two witnesses" from the Book of Revelation. That earns a HUGE facepalm! Then he claims that he has seen Jesus Christ in person, face to face. I'm surprised he hasn't declared himself an apostle yet (at least to my knowledge), a la Herbert W. Armstrong!
Oh, and Susan Alamo was a pastor. Hold the phone--the Bible says that women are to keep silent in the churches and to ask their husbands at home! Yet, from the things I've read and heard, she pretty well ran the show.
He's also one of these preachers who says you can lose your salvation. Well, 1 John 1:9 says "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness." According to Alamo, if you're saved, you will be sinless; if you sin, you risk losing your salvation. Thing is, to be human is to be a sinner. A saved person has a dual nature--the old man (the flesh) and the new (the Spirit). Feed one, you starve the other--a principle that's described in the Reformers Unanimous program. Not only that, but OUR righteousness will never be enough. A saved person has Christ's righteousness imputed to them.
Tell you what, you take the idea that you can lose your salvation, and combine it with a preacher that's a totalitarian, and you get bondage. "If you don't do what the pastor says, you will be sent to hell!" Sounds a lot like Catholicism, Tony! (Reminds me of what a science teacher of mine used to say--point the finger and you have three pointing back at you.)
At any rate, if you want the truth, and not something out of the Twilight Zone, steer clear from "World Pastor" Tony Alamo's literature. He talks about adulterers going to hell, yet from what I understand he married a twice-divorced Susan--which is in itself adultery. Find a King James Bible-believing church (preferably independent Baptist).
And we have a new blog
It's been a while since I had a blog, so I figured, meh, why not start over again with a new one? This is just a place for me to ramble on. But there'll be a point to my ramblings.
First off, know that I am NOT politically correct. Some of the things I say may have some people scurrying for "safe zones" so they won't have to hear anything uncomfortable, or that doesn't line up with whatever "narrative." So if you're overly sensitive, this is your final warning! (Why do we need sensitivity training, anyway? People are WAY too blasted sensitive as it is!)
If you don't like what I have to say, then don't read it. Don't take the wuss's way out and report whatever comment. That's just childish and that says that other people don't have the right to an opinion if it clashes with what you know, think you know, or have been taught. Not that I plan on making comments that are reportable...but again, it goes back to the "safe zone" dwellers who only believe in free speech if it agrees with their way.
Now, with that out of the way...enjoy! :)
First off, know that I am NOT politically correct. Some of the things I say may have some people scurrying for "safe zones" so they won't have to hear anything uncomfortable, or that doesn't line up with whatever "narrative." So if you're overly sensitive, this is your final warning! (Why do we need sensitivity training, anyway? People are WAY too blasted sensitive as it is!)
If you don't like what I have to say, then don't read it. Don't take the wuss's way out and report whatever comment. That's just childish and that says that other people don't have the right to an opinion if it clashes with what you know, think you know, or have been taught. Not that I plan on making comments that are reportable...but again, it goes back to the "safe zone" dwellers who only believe in free speech if it agrees with their way.
Now, with that out of the way...enjoy! :)
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