I've seen forums and the like where people are upset that their boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on them.
Newsflash--it is not adultery. Adultery is when you are married to your covenant spouse and you fool around with someone else, or you fool around with someone who's married to someone else. If you're having sex with your boy/girlfriend it's fornication. If they fool around with someone else, it's still fornication (adultery if the "other person" is married).
I have to ask, what nowadays is the difference between a boy/girlfriend and a spouse? Level of commitment? Either you are committed or you or not.
I can easily see why pastors (mine included) are against dating and having a steady boy/girlfriend--and I agree. It encourages "serial monogamy." You date (or marry) someone for a time, and when you get bored, out with the old, in with the new. And it's so much easier with the no-fault divorce laws. Funny how it takes two people to decide to get married, but only one to decide to call it quits--when the going gets tough, the tough get going to divorce court.
The real fun part is, marriages that started as adultery have a snowball's chance in hell--so why do it?
I think we need to get back to the "old" way of doing things. Group dates, chaperones, the whole nine yards. Because let's face it, newer isn't always better. None of this shacking-up nonsense. How in the world can someone fooling around with your boyfriend be a homewrecker when what you have isn't really a home or a family to begin with? As long as you're not married to them, let's face it, they're really fair game!
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